Friendship, Spiritual Growth and Understanding

Just When You Need It

I am not the fondest of unexpected guests dropping by my home unannounced, but I was pleasantly surprised to have my two best friends to stop by recently one evening when they couldn’t reach me on my jacked-up cellphone. They both were astonished in seeing one another since they both didn’t communicate to each other that they were going to come by my home for a visit. I’ve stayed connected in the usual one on one with them separately as with adult friendships. However, it’s harder now for us to get together in the same place with all three of us having busy lives, families, and personal matters especially since the pandemic. Yet, here we were all smiles and hugs saying,” Girl, I didn’t know you were coming!” It’s like God knew not only what I needed, but who I needed in the right moment just to feel the existence of his love.

Proverbs 27 :17 As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

My friend “Tina” and I have been friends since we met at church at both 7 years old respectively. Our only friendship break was when she went out of state for college, but we picked right back up never missing a beat when we both graduated from undergrad.  My friend “Ranee” and I have been friends since we were both freshmen in college, and she has always been a constant fixture in my life in sharing us both every milestone together from young adulthood.  I have been blessed that when my two closest friends met in hearing me speak about one another separately that it grew to a genuine connection in a triple friendship that has lasted like our friendships independently for over a decade where we can share outings, trips, and family functions as one. Who says groups of threes can’t work out? They are both introverted, and I am the total opposite in being an ambivert, and that is the balance in keeping us grounded our friendship. I’m pretty friendly in never knowing a stranger in meeting lots of people in my life that in a season I could call friends, but the two of them have never wavered in always being by my side.  I’ve shared pretty much every moment of my life with these ladies from learning to drive, graduating from college, marriage, motherhood, and even grieving losses.

Romans 12: 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.

I didn’t have anything particular going on dramatic when they decided to come by to visit. It was merely a “Hey Girl” in “Tina” coming by for a girlfriend catch up, and “Ranee” dropping by some goodies she had picked up for the kids. Our friendship is so close that when they couldn’t reach me they decided to stop by. They were just surprised to see one another. It had been over a year since we were all in each other’s presence. We hugged, sat on the couch, and laughed as always in reminiscing on old times. No selfies were taking, but that moment was just what I needed in feeling loved.  God has a way in coming into our lives to give us what we need, and who we need at just the right timely. It could be a Sunday’s message, scripture, or inspirational quote that God sends our way just when need it the most. God may send a complete stranger or the least likely to be there in a moment’s notice to bless us. There’s an old familiar saying we would say at my old-time family church in deep backwoods Georgia that says, “God may not come when you want him, but he will be there right on time.” I’ve been studying the bible on love lately in every aspect in being able to freely give it, understand agape love, and to be able to receive love without doubt after my divorce. There has never been a hesitation that those two sisters in Christ love me as a friend. I am so grateful that we serve an awesome God that extends his love through others in letting us know we matter, and he let’s us know as a dear friend that he cares.

John15:15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you.

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