It’s not a week that goes by as a mother when I don’t hear one of my children mutter the words ” That’s not fair.” My students will openly share with their classmates, and they will share whole group in class about situations that they deem as unfair passionately with fellow peers nodding in agreement. I’ve experienced moments in my life where similar to those in youth I wanted to pout and scream,” It’s not fair!” If I’m being totally honest I probably did pout and scream that it’s unfair in some of those instances, and my faith was tested ever more in having to believe that God didn’t abandon me in leaving me alone in darkness. Our Heavenly Father wants us to know that when life or situations seem unfair that he has a plan for our lives, he doesn’t play favorites, he doesn’t delight in our pain, and to never fear in being left alone to fight in sorrow.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy spirit. Romans 15: 13
It’s Not Right!
There a universal feeling when life seems unfair that awake within us in dire moments of distress.
- We feel slighted.
- We feel singled out.
- We feel punished.
- We feel neglected.
- We feel disappointed.
- We feel alone.
My children in moments of angst of perceived unfairness have shared discontent in feeling like one sibling got away with murder while they were personally reprimanded for a similar incident. I’ve had moments in my adulthood while being in the workforce where I felt that a fellow coworker seemingly got away unscathed from not putting in the same effort or none thereof from what I was expected to do that had me fighting fumes from internal steam of injustice. I’ve had a few colleagues from diverse backgrounds who could relate in conversation in having the passion, education, and work experience who shared they were later passed over a position or promotion in having it given to someone else with none of the required credentials who had an inside hookup. God saw a plan and purpose even in the midst of injustices that later were brought to light in flipping situations for my good that seemed unfair at the time that were major blessings.
Now if we are children, then we are heirs-heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may share in his glory. Romans 8:17
There are serious and dire situations where we may have felt like life was unfair leaving us bewildered from circumstances that caused much pain and hurt. Things seemed far out of my plans and my control a little over a year ago that almost caused me to go numb after experiencing low blow after low blow with my family. I was having the roughest time in receiving the proper diagnosis for my daughter’s disability to get her the services she needs. I never thought after being a devoted wife and caregiver to my husband for ten years that when things got rocky in attempting to navigate a marriage long distance that he would’ve made the decision to end it, nor was I prepared for the switch up against me that followed from people I considered family and friends in the earlier stages of separation. I harbor no bitterness towards my ex, nor do I have resentment from those who felt they needed to create a narrative to choose sides. I just felt betrayed in thinking how unfair and temperamental people could be in going through the process of divorce. I also reevaluated some friendships following some pretty inconsiderate comments in going through that rough patch. I felt in that rock bottom season disappointment, abandoned, and let down by those those I lovingly invested in.
My Grandmother was my heart; she was a consistent support system all my life. She was the only reason I remained in my hometown since my family scattered to various parts of Atlanta. I couldn’t believe that in my season grieving the lost of my marriage that I would additionally grieve the lost of my Grandmother who helped raise me. The added stress of financial concerns in providing for four children along with adjusting as a new teacher in the public sector had moments within itself that tested me to brink in questioning all hope. God didn’t leave me in those situations to fight alone in being a comforter, provider, and a protector for my children and I. It took all faith and developing a new support system of godly connections that helped me apply his word in shaping thoughts from pain to purpose to prevent having the wrong attitude and actions despite the circumstances.
I’ve had glimmers of hope, assurance, favor, grace, and love in this season in my life. My love tank is full, and I’ve been truly blessed. As my testimony of what God can do grows, so does my faith grows in Christ as a believer. Jesus himself was unfairly treated, crucified, and died nailed to a cross for our sins. When life seems out of our control, unfortunate, and unfair know that God has not left you in the wilderness alone. He has a perfect plan for our lives for a greater purpose with his glory in the face of adversity. Trust in his authority over your life never forgetting that he sees, he cares, and we will act on our behalf. Be blessed beautiful people. 💋
His compassion never fails . They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him.” The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to those who seek him. Lamentations 3:22-25