My mom comforted us with assurance when we all left home in branching out to the real world of adulthood with a short saying,”Remember, you have people.” She shared in her southern accent that no matter what came our way, what challenges we faced, or what the future looked like that we had “people” in our lives who were there in support of us. She wanted us to know that we had family and loved ones who cared. I’ve adopted that saying in my own personal way with my children in letting them know they have my love, support, and understanding to never feel alone. Life will test us in our parenting journey and beyond in making us feel like we’re alone, but I want to encourage you that no matter how isolated you feel within your experience that you are not alone.
But a time is coming, and has come, when you will be scattered, each to his own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me. I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. John 16 : 32-33
Baby, I’m Right Here
My twins seem to easily navigate socially wherever they go immediately in making friends in any environment, but my eldest two children like to feel environments out a bit. It takes them both time to warm up to their surroundings. My son in his younger years would give me a look back of hesitation when we were in a new setting, I could see a brief moment of separation anxiety as to see if it was okay in proceeding foward. My eldest daughter shared that at first she felt alone in getting acquainted within the children’s ministry at our new church, yet her twin sisters were close in proximity in a separate classroom. It didn’t matter to the two of them that I was near by, a phone call away, and that they had other caring people near by their side. Their minds within those dire moments felt alone, afraid, and they felt unsure about the outcome ahead. I would often say, “Baby, I’m here.” to let them know that my presence was felt.
You Are Not Alone
One of Satan’s greatest tricks is to make us feel like we are alone. He attempts to make us feel isolated through fear, shame, and guilt. We can allow ourselves to withdraw from others in feeling inadequate in magnifying our flaws and faults. There are also occasions where people act ungodly to us in making us feel ostracized as if we are alone in not fitting in with the status quo. I felt alone for awhile in different seasons of my life in feeling like I had no one who could really relate to my struggles, and there were times my mind played tricks on me to think no one really cared. I also didn’t want to repel others away in sharing the transparency of what I was going through beyond the surface in balancing life and motherhood. I had the heartbreaking experience of being slowly distanced by some friends who said they cared at first when I opened up in lowering my wall. They later pulled away when they saw the fullness of what I balanced behind the scenes as a Mommy blogger within my personal life. I saw that in the last two years I grew a social protective mechanism in being a bit withdrawn, yet I remained cautiously friendly on the outside. I fought the feeling of thinking I was alone in the world in what I was going through. I have slowly gained back through faith, healing, and finding empowerment in sharing my story that I’m not alone in life no matter what I’m going through.
God Is There With You
The Holy Spirit is real in being an ever present source of hope within our lives. God’s unconditionally love is real for his children. Our Lord Savior Jesus Christ found us worthy of love when he gave his life on the cross to die for our sins. We serve a living God who walks by our side, who hears our pleas, knows our secrets, and who lovingly cares. I needed to know that I wasn’t alone, forgotten, and that I was protected. God provided that comfort in understanding through studying his word, constant prayer, and through building connections in rewarding relationships with fellow believers. Remember you are not alone. You have people, and that someone cares for you.