Have you ever had one of those restless nights of awakening nostalgia of a negative experience that some how no matter how hard you tried to let go you seemed to repeatedly play it back in your mind? Better yet, there are those seasons of frustration, hurt from a deep loss, or a period of uncertainty that we seem not to easily shake off as much as we desire that have us locked in what seems like a standstill. I asked God recently after noticing that in prayer and in my spirit that my heart was carrying the unnecessary burden of weight of things that I needed to release to grow closer to him along with growing in other areas in my life. I knew that in maintaining the inner peace, joy, and happiness that I’ve acquired in this phase of my life that I had to be obedient in strong faith in releasing those things that seemed to have me shackled in distraction. Resentment is a bond to release into the atmosphere .
Forget Me Not
I am one of those people who’s sadly horrible at remembering names, but I can retell something that happening blow by blow in detail of all that transpired since a child. I don’t know if it’s a defense mechanism or what, but there are few forget me not moments in my life. However, in understanding Jesus’ love and forgiveness as a believer having a photographic memory of every hurt, pain, lost, and slight can be detrimental in growing in representation of his grace and mercy. Holding on to grudges is a life sucking energy drainer that actually hurts you more than the person who did the offense. Living on what should’ve happened, but didn’t happen as planned keeps us locked in a standstill never clearly moving forward with a distorted view of the future. I personally felt that living a life with heavy emotional baggage wasn’t worth it. I simplified it in laming terms on how to release somethings in being in clear heart and sound mind.
Here are 3 ways I’ve applied learning how to release and simply let go that I pray will inspire someone else to grow into all God had called them to be, and to live a full life :
Release what didn’t happen. : There will always be something in our lives that didn’t quite work out in the way we thought it would be. I look back at some interviews in my life that I didn’t get to job for and I’m grateful. I may at the time felt I desperately needed that particular job, but later saw that God was directing me towards steps for a rewarding career path. I’ve been rejected a few times from what seemed like a great opportunity, but later I was favored with an even greater opportunity to grow in my field that was a better fit. Let go of the “shoulda, coulda, and woulda” moments in your life opening the door for fresh and possibly brighter beginnings. Remember no regrets!
Release what released you! Why hold on to what boldly has let you go? Again, things don’t always go as planned, so in those cases we must stay ever faithful in trusting in God developing a relationship in Jesus with pure confidence of knowing our worth through his eyes in dying for our sins. It’s detrimental to find out that you were fired or laid off from your job, but don’t let that pain stop you from applying for another job. It also may be a sign that this is the time for you to start your own business if it’s been on your heart. The ending of a once close friendship can be a downer especially if you were ghosted without the courtesy of an explanation, but maybe it was needed to draw you closer to God rather than relying solely from earthly comfort. There will be times that those we care about disappointment us or what we thought was solid won’t work out. Have no love lost. I’ve learned what’s meant to be will be, and who’s meant to stay in our lives will stay.
Release the pain : There are so many things that although we mortally try to intervene within our power to control that we see are above our control. Our lives are placed in God’s hands of authority. I discovered the Serenity prayer a few years ago. I make sure to apply it when need be, and I don’t add any extra words. I remind myself in revisiting areas of pain of my life with an analogy of wearing uncomfortable shoes. There’s no greater feeling to me physically than releasing my feet from the pain of wearing shoes that hurt my feet. I know the damage that wearing uncomfortable shoes long term have, so I remove them as soon as POSSIBLE. It may sound funny but look at the burden of carrying around the weight of past hurts, resentment, and unresolved issues like wearing uncomfortable shoes, and you will see that the long term affects aren’t really worth it all. Plus it feels real good when you release them in taking them off.
“Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God” Colossians 3:1