I’ve learned through age, maturity, and in carrying the balancing act of marriage and family the distinction of being alone and being lonely. The delicate understanding of acknowledging my combination of being both extroverted and introverted allows me to have an appreciation of both roles in my life in excitement of connecting my energy and pleasured solitude. A recent quick trip to the fair to check up on artwork from my class switched into me taking a trip back into my teen years jumping on some of the most thrilling rides enjoying them happily solo.
I enjoy outings with my husband, children, and friends in attending special events, but I equally enjoy most of the same outings alone without being lonely in needing company. My husband has throughout our marriage encouraged me to ” step out” in getting a little fresh air in doing the things that he knows I enjoy more than the rest of the family. There were a few times my husband surprised me in renting a hotel room so that I could treat myself in doing the things I like in taking a mommy breather. It’s not an every week or month occurance when he does it, but I do take advantage of that time exploring museums, watching a matinee snacking on popcorn uninterrupted, window shopping, or going on a stroll in a scenic nature spot. There are a few moments where I may invite a friend to join me, and sometimes a close girlfriend joins in, but I usually use that time in happy reflective discovery.
There’s Nothing Wrong With Riding Solo
I think it’s been ingrained in us that in order to have fun you have to have someone by your side to share in the experience. I totally disagree with needing company at all times to enjoy the pleasures and thrills in life. I occasionally share a wonderful outing alone, and invite the whole family so that we share in the fun together from what I alone discovered. I take the kids to the zoo often, and I decided on a day trip to visit the zoo’s Botanical Garden. I ran into someone who recognized me from our former homeschooling group who asked, ” Where are the kids, and are you alone?” I shared with her that they were having some “Daddy Time” per his request, and I came so I could really see the animals and view the beauty of the garden. We both shared a hearty laugh in understanding the seriousness of the joke, and we went our separate ways. I love going to the zoo with the kids, but alone I saw things I never knew that it featured.
Don’t Know A Stranger
I am far from being antisocial although I have nothing against those who are. My family and friends joke with me that I never meet a stranger no matter where I go. I guess some people have a personality that people just talk to, and I usually a blige in conversation with a stranger on my alone time, and I usually don’t regret it. I got on a ride called, The Pirate at the fair, and three teenagers asked to join me while I sat alone. I told them it’s more fun if you wave your hands high in the air as the ride goes down. The girls and I screamed and laughed with excitement on the ride. They later asked me if I wanted to accompany them on a few other rides, I smiled but politely declined. I picked up a smoked turkey leg that I knew couldn’t I eat by myself, took a bite of a sweet powdery funnel cake, and I jumped on the ride called, The Himalayas. I saw a few people I recognized getting on the ride, and I waved, “Hello!” I strapped in alone for the ride, secured my hat, and when the ride started to go fast I put my hands in the air smiling in glee. Rides are so much fun when you learn how to let go in freedom in being in the moment.
It’s great having others around in sharing life’s experiences, adventures, conversations, and pleasures, but don’t depend on the company of others solely to embrace the full joy of living life to the fullest.