I vividly remember growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, where mental health discussions were scarce, especially within families. Mental health within families was a topic of quiet understanding, known directly or indirectly. Personally, within my family growing up, discussions about mental health were either secretive, regarding a loved one who struggled, or at times it was used in contempt. It’s essential that we initiate conversations about mental health within families, not to shame or judge, but to address issues, provide healing, and support one another, just as we would with any other medical condition or concern.Embracing open discussions about mental health as a family is a powerful way to foster a nurturing environment where everyone feels empowered to share their stories and seek support. It involves recognizing the profound impact of mental well-being, elevating conversations about mental health to a place of importance, and providing a sacred space for family members to express themselves freely, without fear of judgment.
Benefits of Discussing Mental Health as a Family:
There are numerous advantages for families to initiate open discussions regarding mental health awareness and wellness. Although it’s a delicate discussion, cultivating a safe space for mental health awareness actually fosters happier and healthier families.
1. Provide Empowerment through Openness:
Embracing mental health discussions can liberate families from the shackles of stigma, empowering members to seek help without hesitation.
2. Grow A Deeper Connections through Understanding:
Engaging in mental health conversations can foster a culture of empathy and compassion.
3. Support through Open Communication:
By sharing their struggles and triumphs, families can uplift each other through life’s challenges.
4. Collective Growth towards Wellness:
Nurturing a safe, supportive environment can have a transformative impact on the mental well-being of every family member, propelling them towards a brighter future.
Open the Conversation As A Family on Mental Health
Remember the purpose is to have real meaningful conversations with the hopes of empowerment , yet with truth in addressing any concerning issues regarding mental well being in how it’s impacting anyone of the family personally or others. Timing is everything, so choose a moment when everyone is relaxed and distraction-free. Please understand that location matters too -opt for a comfortable, private setting where family members feel secure sharing their thoughts. Also, important things to consider is the family’s dynamics, age appropriate language especially as it pertains to younger children and teens, and sensitivity when it comes to emotional triggers. For deeper discussions as it relates to abuse and addiction it would be advised to consult a third party who is a trained and experienced mental health professional for serious interventions.
1. Initiate the Conversation with Empathy: Be honest and direct, expressing your feelings or concerns clearly while prioritizing empathy. Use “I” statements to focus on your own emotions and experiences, avoiding accusations. For example, say “I’m worried about how you’ve been feeling lately” instead of “You seem depressed”.
2. Listen Actively and Empathetically: Give your undivided attention, avoiding interruptions and focusing on understanding your family member’s perspective. Acknowledge their emotions, validating their feelings and showing you’re there to listen and support them.
3. Encourage Open Dialogue: Ask open-ended questions that invite detailed responses, avoiding judgment and unsolicited advice. Normalize mental health discussions, framing them as a natural part of life, just like any other health condition.
4. Offer Support and Resources: Reassure your family members of your ongoing support throughout their journey. Offer practical help finding resources like therapists, support groups, or relevant websites. If needed, suggest seeking professional help from a mental health expert.
5. Be Prepared for Different Reactions: Understand that responses may vary – some family members may be open and receptive, while others may be defensive or resistant. Be patient and understanding, giving them time to process the conversation and share as much or as little as they feel comfortable with.
6. Resources for Further Support: National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) provides resources for families and individuals dealing with mental health conditions. Mental Health First Aid offers training to help people understand and support individuals with mental health challenges. The American Psychiatric Association (APA) offers information and resources on mental health and treatment.
Address What Needs to Be Addressed
Reflecting on my family, both biological and through marriage, I regret that certain mental health concerns were not addressed with the requisite gravity, consistency, and compassion. I wish some family members had felt comfortable sharing their struggles before acting out or creating unnecessary distance. In my own household, having grown up in a way that taught me the importance of addressing mental health and witnessing firsthand the collateral damage of neglecting it, we maintain open discussions on the topic. No family is perfect or immune to mental health crisis regardless of race, region, or status. I’ve done my best as a mother to create a safe space for discussing mental health and seeking treatment, and I’m committed to continuing this conversation to promote healing, growth, and a deeper understanding of one another here at home. No one here at home is shamed regarding any mental health treatment plan.Let’s initiate a conversation about mental health in breaking stigmas and foster families centered on healing and growth.
Purpose Filled Mommy with Minimarie 